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“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.”  ~Carl Jung

The FOCUSandFLOW Life Question:
What do you choose to become?

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“We have to take risks. We will only understand the miracle of life fully when we allow the unexpected to happen.”  ~Paul Coelho

The FOCUSandFLOW Life Question:
What is one risk you are willing to take in your life right now?

SPH says:
“We must take risks in order to move from the realm of the status quo to the possibility of transformation, change, and yes… miracles. 
The status quo can be quite comfortable; and comfort is something that we do need in our lives for grounding and stability.  However, we must be careful to assess the nature of the status quo in our lives.  Sometimes the status quo can be so familiar that we become complacent, we close our eyes and become blind to things that are silently destructive or impairing optimal growth. There are times when we need to be willing to live within uncertainty and unfamiliarity and open our eyes to the unexpected.  And BAM…there you are– face to face with a miracle you could have never even imagined. So take the risk of living your life fully, a life filled with both comfort and uncertainty and make room for the unexpected amazingness of miracles. ”  ~Shelly Prillerman Harrell

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QP- youarethelocus

No one else is your problem. You are the locus of conversion and transformation”  ~Richard Rohr

The FOCUSandFLOW Life Question:
Where do you locate the possibility of transformation?

SPH says:
“To change how you are, you must transform who you are.  The center of your transformation is located in the innermost core of your being and emanates from there to your thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and relationships.  Honest self-examination is the prerequisite activity for true transformation.  We must look within, through clear eyes that seek truth with humility and without fear, guilt, or shame.  We often blame and externalize, judging and putting others down– with our most harsh judgments involving the things reflect what is hiding in ourselves. We must be willing to see ugliness  and sinfulness, to see neediness and fear, to see powerlessness and insecurity, to see ignorance and unknowing, to see pridefulness and ego.  We must be willing to first see these manifestations of our humanness with compassion and forgiveness, and then see beyond them to the internal and eternal love and peace that is available to each of us.  The center of our transformation, individually and collectively, originates within and radiates out.”  ~Shelly Prillerman Harrell

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QP-workofart

“You can make your life such a work of art that everyone who sees it will be inspired.”  ~Eknath Easwaran

The FOCUSandFLOW Life Question:
What will you make of your life that can inspire others?

SPH says:
“Inspire others with how you live your life.”

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“We must be free not because we claim freedom, but because we practice it.”  ~William Faulkner

The FOCUSandFLOW Life Question:
How do you practice freedom for yourself and for others?

SPH says:
“Yes, we must claim freedom. Naming and claiming are important and affirmative steps toward liberation.  But words are not enough.  We must look into our hearts and minds and evaluate how our claims of freedom and justice for all are reflected in our actions.  We must live in ways that both express and demand freedom for ourselves and for others.  We must actively practice freedom everyday because oppression hides quietly and exerts its power through our blindness and inaction.  We must actively practice freedom to disrupt the apathy of a status quo existence. We must actively practice freedom so that our lives do not fall into the shadows of freedom unrealized.”  ~Shelly Prillerman Harrell

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QP-longingforintimacy

“Everyone longs for intimacy and dreams of a nest of belonging in which one is embraced, seen, and loved.”  ~John O’Donohue

The FOCUSandFLOW Life Question:
What are you doing to carefully build a nest of belonging in your life?

SPH says:
“Having a place where you feel seen and where you don’t have to hide parts of yourself, is like fresh air, sunlight, and freedom. We, however, have to be willing to be seen. We have to cultivate relationships where we can allow another person to first glimpse, and then see, and then love us in our full personhood. This takes courage; and accepting the reality that vulnerability comes with the possibility of painful experiences. But rather than hiding in the shadows, take the risk of living in the light! Rather than dwelling in your fears of what could go wrong and worst case scenarios, savor every moment of true connection with others. What you savor becomes internalized and will multiply its expression. Recognize that painful feelings pass (if you allow them to), and are worth the bliss of living in the fresh open air where you can be yourself , be accepted, and be affirmed– in that place of love and light where you belong.”  ~Shelly Prillerman Harrell

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QP-bringthemforth

“In saying yes to new beginnings, we begin to bring them forth.”  ~Marianne Williamson

The FOCUSandFLOW Life Question:
Is there something  in your life that needs your “yes”?

SPH says:
“We must embrace the inevitable endings and beginnings in our lives.  Rather than resist,  JUST SAY YES and you begin to be an active co-creator of the amazing things that can emerge in your life.”  
~Shelly Prillerman Harrell

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QP- live new

“We don’t think ourselves into a new way of living. We live ourselves into a new way of thinking.”  ~Richard Rohr

The FOCUSandFLOW Life Question:
What new ways of living will you commit to?

SPH says:
“While thinking positively is important, our most deeply embedded and toxic thought patterns don’t easily change. We must intentionally choose to live in ways that over time create a new history of healing relational experiences that will shake up and loosen sedimented ways of thinking.  Unhealthy thought patterns change only through new, transformative experiences. This starts with our relationships– with ourselves, with others, with the world.  To think new thoughts we must live new lives.”   
~Shelly Prillerman Harrell

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QP-bestandtruthful

“The difficult passages in our lives– the failures and losses shape us into our best and most truthful selves.”  ~Shane Claiborne

The FOCUSandFLOW Life Question:
Are you seizing opportunities to reshape yourself and your life?

SPH says:
“The hardest life experiences provide opportunities for transformation if we are willing to face ourselves with truth and love.”  
~Shelly Prillerman Harrell

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QP- pause be happy

“Now and then it’s good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy.”  ~Guillaume Apollinaire

The FOCUSandFLOW Life Question:
Are you ready to claim your happiness?

SPH says:
“We are often so busy chasing something that we think will bring us happiness– a relationship, status, money, beauty, adventure, etc., that we forget that nothing on this earth is going to BRING us lasting happiness.  These things bring us temporary highs and the illusion of happiness, but our dependence on them also brings great risk for states of fear and desperation that we will lose them.  Addiction to acquisition is a sure path to the erosion of happiness. Think of what people do and the destructive things that occur in the service of trying to hold on to a relationship that has run its course, or to maintain status or beauty.  Putting energy into desperate attempts to not lose something usually results in losing it.  Think of the moments of precious happiness lost when we spend our time focused on the fear of losing happiness.  The ability to BE happy from the inside is not dependent on other people and processes that we will never be able to completely control.  The amazingness of connecting deeply to another person or the awesomeness of nature, reveling in achieving greatly or in the accomplishments of others, or marveling in the highest expressions of humanity and the miracles of life are all triggers for accessing that inner happy place. But that inner happy place is indeed INNER and external phenomena are just triggers to activate what is already there.  So, cease the chase for things that you become desperate about losing.  Spend some time finding and feeling the happiness that lives within you. Refocus your energies and claim your happy.”  
~Shelly Prillerman Harrell